Are You Loyal ?

Loy*al*ty –noun, plural -ties. 1. the state or quality of being loyal; faithfulness to commitments or obligations. 2. faithful adherence to a sovereign, government, leader, cause, etc. 3. an example or instance of faithfulness, adherence, or the like: a man with fierce loyalties. The first thing that comes to my mind when I hear loyalty is consistency, allegiance, faithfulness, fealty, affection, and devotion. These are very important traits to have. This is apart of my genetic makeup. As I am maturing and observing my daily surroundings I noticed that loyalty hardly exists from the street dudes to mobsters, from businessmen to the campaign trail loyalty is a rare commodity. In my travels I hear men and woman (mostly men) speak about how they want someone loyal especially in the relationship aspect of their lives. Then my question in my head is are you in turn loyal ? Do you know the true definition not what you have tailored to fit your requirements but the standard across the board meaning. For instance how can you expect some one you treat like shit do be loyal? How can you be upset if they abandon you or play for the next team? Sometimes you have to look at peoples mind set because after all everything is about perception.... let's dig deep I'll give you a scenario : Let's say you are in an 8 yr relationship or 2 year relationship (doesn't matter) . You have a couple that has a lot in common, same morals and principles, get along well (for the most part). On the outside it seems like the are a pretty descent almost perfect (perfect ...that's another blog in it's entirety) couple. But here are the facts. He spends almost zero time at home, cheats and with cheating comes lies, Plus he is commita-phobe, and isn't taking care of home in the tradition sense (that means not spending time or catering to the needs of the relationship he is in). There are some money issues but nothing too dramatic. Now after 8 yrs of being a solider, shorty decides to go AWOL. This is the interesting part not only did all this time he expect loyalty, In her opinion he really didn't show any. Moving right along ........... So let's elaborate: Only expect what you give. I know somethings are easier said than done but people (and in this cases the male) should be realistic. If you are not taking care of home you are lucky she only went AWOL and wasn't disloyal. If you have time to cheat, then you have time to make your relationship work period (if you don't want to make time don't be in one WTF) because if you make a commitment it's like a contract that's your word if you don't want to honor it pay the fucking penalty charge and bounce !! Choosing one over the other is being disloyal. Whether it is a friend, partner, family co-worker whatever person you decided to let into your life that is a trait you should look for and demand. Just because they don't want to deal with your shit anymore doesn't mean they aren't loyal, that just means they no longer want to deal with your shit !!!!! Why should you be loyal to someone who betrayed your trust ? Not only that why continue to be loyal to someone who doesn't try to earn it back or doesn't show any signs of change. When it comes to friendships : Your friends should be the first to top the list especially your BF because she is your ultimate confidant. Even though I mostly talk about relationships here (man/woman) everything I say can be applied across the board (meaning that it apply in all situations friend,family,intimate). Now my personal opinion loyalty is who been there with you through thick and thin, your ride or die even when sometimes you didn't deserve for them to be by your side, defends you when you are wrong ( fuck it I go hard for my ninjaz lol). Even if a better job offer came up they would still help you build from the ground up because they believe in your vision. Stick with you, even if you were broke because they know that that spell will not last forever. Give you their last and MOST importantly will never chose another!! (this type of loyalty rarely exists these days). Please be aware for the impostor that front like they have your best interest at heart while they have ulterior motives, and just want to "use somebody". This happens to the best of us please do not think it can't happen to you, because in the end you will get caught "slippin" and then find out who your real "peoplez" are. And might lose some loyal peoples in the process (on to the next one) These are just some attributes that I think defines loyalty How many people you know that can honestly say that your loyalty is unquestionable ??? ReSpEcT, Pana

Why Buy The Cow , When ........

I read a very interesting article on another website, it was so insightful I decided to share my thoughts on this issue. Growing up I didn't want to learn how to cook, shit I barely wanted to clean my room. Every time it is drilled into young girls head "you have to learn this "what kind of man are you going to have if you don't" or my personal favorite line "you can not get a husband if you do not do this " My response each time is my husband will cook ,clean and wash my clothes (yea right :o/). I still soaked up all the information that my drill Sargent was feeding me. It wasn't until I reached about 18 then I was thankful for all lessons learned. I hate a man with a dirty house. Actually I want a man who is neater than me so I know for sure I won't have to clean up after him lol !!!!! I guess people take advangte and do not appreciate the good things they expect too much , so it makes it easier to explore all options because there are no more morals and principles. Some people pop the question just to shut you up (smh)Anyway in this article this man states that a man will never marry you, if you one already cater to him, and act like you are married for instance :

1. move in together before marriage "
2. have sex w/o protection
3. clean his apartment ,cooking "playing house"
4. Calling him hubby, him calling you wifey etc
5. wash his clothes
6. laying up w/each other for hours at a time
7. talking about forever but no commitment is in place
8. Putting things in each others names
9. Keys to apartment

*When you do these type of marital acts, you are giving a person the opportunity to use you up. They are getting the most out of you already so “why would they marry you?”.

He also stated that if your not married your single!!!!!!!. People do not owe you anything because your dating. You are single until he puts a ring on your finger only then you are in a committed relationship. Doing Martial Acts without being married.

I have to admit I'm guilty of this very same act smfh. I guess times have change I have been bread to do all these things. How do you show you are marriage material ??? I have a lot of questions, but you know what I agree I'm single I'm not married never been , never been close I guess the old saying is true why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free. Very insightful.

Please check him out here his name is Life Skills and he is a relationship blogger.

Thank you Life Skills I needed this post.

Knowing is half the battle ,

Pana

Pisces vs Gemini

So I had a run in with a Gemini a couple of years ago, he was decent guy, took me out showed me a good time , wasn't stingy but one day he flipped out for no reason that is when I seen the other side of him. I believe Gemini's male/female are two different people the calm and reserved half and the psycho kill you bitch side (males). the females on the other hand will try to be friend you then destroy you behind your back. I think they always got a lot of drama going on in their lives. This encounter was very brief due to the fact that he broke one of my unbreakable rules. I think people believe your joking when you say I will not tolerate certain things, especially since Gemini people have this sex appeal about then I don't know what that's about lol. So he played himself and then my ex (who was on hiatus at the time) wanted to work on us, it all happened the way it was suppose to. Needless to say Gemini #1 came back full force I mean he brought 3 dozen roses was blowing my phone up like a stalker (btw that is where the term Stalkerdentay came from) seriously like 30 calls in one hour :o/ . I stuck to my principles gave him no more air time, I have no time for men that try to treat me like the average. I guess he was so use to getting his way that he forgot that there is always an exception to the rule, and I wasn't like every other chick he dealt with. Moving right along :

So I met another Gemini recently who is very nice, and thoughtful. I sense the person hiding something I can't put my finger on it hmmmm. Truthful with somethings but not with everything (the devilish grin gives it away). I'm smiling when I type this because I see that this person can potentially become a very good friend. I don't know about confidant though because I don't think that they can be a keeper of secrets. I don't really trust anymore. Since they haven't given me a reason to mistrust them we will just play it by ear. The only things is that they get testy after they slick and I can tell they don't like slick talk in return. I'm watching very closely I hope the don't play the same hand as Gemini #1 cause that will be a shame. I do like the fact that besides confrontation, they are willing to express themselves in different ways. You always know how they feel, think, etc. Most of all the feeling with them is light for some reason which is refreshing. I think they are trying to put certain things in place and serious about what they want out of life which I find commendable :o) ... Not only that being Pisces people can be sensitive, laid back for the most part, and emotional (only with people the care about) Another reason why it's always tug of war ! Pisces people get taken advantage of, but don't get it twisted we are nothing to fuck with and as easy as we swim up stream we will swim down to kick your ass !!! I think it will always be a tug of war. The chemistry is on punto but I get along with anyone that has a good spirit. I'm interested and please believe I'm 2 steps ahead ;oT On the other hand willing to see if this is fact of fiction. Glad I met ya BABE ;op. I was told I will meet a lot of interesting people this year :ox See Me On Top !!!!

Stay tuned......

What's your Fantasy ?? Part II

In part one of this series I stated that I wanted to go some where with Black and Pink sand. That is one my list of things to do before I have children and die lol (list is another blog in itself). Anyway I thought I would share another "fantasy" if you want to call it that or my idea of a perfect date, or I moment in the movie playing in your head. *Side Note I do not believe in perfection is the normal sense of the word* but what is right according to my standards (not something w/o flaws).

Anyway back to what I was saying I love going to the movies, bowling (even though I suck), skating (don"t even get me started on that I'm the worse) , plays, museums, and of course going out to eat . I dislike people that lacks originality when it comes to dating.

My perfect is simple maybe a dinner, followed by a walk in central park preferably in spring early fall months. Another idea is a carriage ride. I prefer not in winter time because it is so cold I want to enjoy it (but with the right man it could be dreamy) and you know my motto there are always exceptions that proves the rule. I find thoughtful date ideas maybe be a little more time consuming the the traditional dinner/movie date....but those fine details is what separate your BF/GF and Husband/Wife. So simple but yet, for some hard. this year I am going to make it happen !!

This is just my what's in my mind.

Live, Life ,Change, and Most Importantly LOVE HARD anything else is uncivilized.

Ciao,

Pana

Go Go Gadget Flow ......

The other day I had a meeting in my Manhattan and my phone was going dead, after that met up with .........(who should forever remain nameless) lol and I said yo my bateria is negativo, they replied mine as well. So we stopped at Duane Reade and purchased it. The product actually works and most of all ladies it can fit right into your purse (Gucci Shoes) just in case your phone ever dies or you are running on E. I give this product a thumbs up. It retails for 20 bucks worth it in my opinion. What Is It:

Energizer® Energi To Go™ Instant Cell Phone Charger is a reusable charging device that can be used with cell phones, some PDAs and Blackberries. It is compact and enables you to keep your phone charged without having to rely on the availability of power outlets. The charger comes with a phone tip connector, the charger itself and two Energizer® e2® Lithium® AA batteries. While other batteries may work - those are the recommended type and brand (of course it is). How Does It Work: The charger uses the power of two AA batteries to recharge your cell phone or PDA. Not only can it be used to fully charge a dead battery but it can be used to top up batteries so that you don't go dead during an important conversation. Not only can this be used just for charging, but while you are talking or using your device. An LED indicates the charge level of your device. Why You Should Use It:

Nothing is worse than being in the middle of a phone call and losing all power. If you lose battery power due to location or you forgot to charge before leaving on your trip; it will help you to not miss calls or connections. This is a very compact, economical, lightweight and easy to use gadget.

Guess Who's Bizzack

Hello Guys,

Sorry it has been a minute since my last update, I've been busy re-evaluating somethings and people in my life. I find that even though most people do it more often than others a thorough clean out of your closet is needed every couple of years as far as people whom you thought was of importance. Anyway I am trying to revamp this site (I have plenty of ideas). I just received a promotion, and I find myself newly single all at the time same time. I thought it would be a bit overwhelming but I think it was time and god was preparing me for this .

Ok On To The Next One................

So with that being said I will cover future events etc, give updates as to what I would like to accomplish. Ellegua is opening my path and with God I can do anything. I will keep hitting you guys with topics i find interesting, and address concerns. Feel free to always drop me a line with any suggestions you may have at : Pana@labellamorenita.com

I just speak on what's "In My Mind "

Ciao ,

Pana