Cold as Ice

So I have been thinking, how did some people get so COLD or pretend to be. Life has a funny way of throwing us curve balls, we go thru hurt and pain it is a part of life. What I am trying to figure out is when does this pain influence a change in our behavior and personality ? When people become immune to feeling anything or just gave up giving a f*** . They have no remorse for the pain they cause or subjected to.

Now don't get me wrong I can be overly sensitive sometimes, but it comes a point when some people are plain ole nasty , disrespectful, and cold. time and time again you put your heart on the line whether it be family, friends, and intimate and in most cases continually get shitted on either they are ungrateful , unappreciative or too materialistic to see what you do for them and where your loyalty lies or the fact that maybe you try to compensate in other area " When she need help I'm right over her shoulder, when off track ma is keeping me focused" I know money makes the world go round but I guess I'm old school just because he tricking don't mean he love you . Anyway back to the subject at hand I refuse to be cold even though I have been hurt , heart broken I do not believe in someone paying for another person's mistakes. Also I treat people the way I would like to be treated being a better person. I know first hand it is harder to live your life the RIGHT way than you do whatever and step on whomever to get buy. God always paves a way for me to to go farther, do better and have been blessed with good karma. Are we really a product of   our circumstances ?  In life are we so blinded by the superficial that we let lose sight of our morals and principles and just think about what we can "Get" out of situations. Everyone wants a ride or die and loyalty but if your "cold" how can you expect something that you aren't or unwilling to give?!!! We should re- examine our "relationships" establish what went wrong move past it or get over it. It is unhealthy to harbor negative energy it blocks our blessings (positive energy). With that being said your perceived deficiencies, anxieties or cravings may be what is excluding you. Remember that you have options. You are a survivor, able to deal with the flaws of your partner, yourself ,family, and the cold shoulder from those who see your values as unusual or suspect. Either may be putting a strain on your love life or lack there of. You can find strength in adversity, so don't be too quick to curse your lot everything happens for a reason. Be willing to face the unknown hardships for the sake of future improvements, growth and acceptance. Soon you will be in a place where you can express yourself fully and let go some of the pain resentment for past hurt. People are attracted to vibrancy let that inner glow shine thru. I know it is good to be detached on some levels but you will shine a lot brighter when your melting not frozen. Maybe some good can come of this without being frozen you wouldn't know how it feels to burn with desire.

What are your thoughts ?

Ciao, 

Pana 

Try This.....

Estella Boutique

Estella Boutique is owned by Tameka Raymond , and sells Men, Women, and Children's clothing. I can not wait to visit this boutique to see how it differs from others in Ga. I love the warm feeling the store has love the choice in furniture, and the fact that customers who spend over $250 will receive a complimentary style session with Tameka herself.

Also 25% of sales go toward the Lost Ones Foundation, which inspires, mentors, and aids troubled young women (a foundation that Tameka has started). So if you are in the Atlanta area or visiting the A soon like myself please check out the store and let me know what you think of it. I will let you know after my visit next month.

 
 
Estella Boutique
1159 Canton St
Roswell, Ga
770-594-3333

Weekend Recap

This weekend I have been a busy little bee (thank god) lol . I worked at a charity event with my friend Jacquelyne Joyah (but I call her Blu but you can't haha) she styled a fashion show and gave away clothes and accessories to the women that participated in the show.  Which I thought was a phenomenal thing to do. So Sat I picked her and her staff up from Penn Station and we made our way to NJ to set up for Sunday's charity event. Let me tell you I did a lot of driving this past weekend and I am beat I still haven't gotten any sleep as I am in the process of editing interviews from the charity event since I covered it from my blog. I met  interesting people did some networking and have a few things lined up. There are going to be a couple of changes to the blog not as far as content too much but there will be products for sale (coming soon) God willing of course. I know you guys probably noticed the change in layout and ads etc small but MAJOR changes more to come. I will update post entries on a more consistent basis, and topics you will to see on here please let me know. I am working diligently to give you the best content  I can, and would like to hear your thoughts. Please feel free to drop me a line or email me at Pana@Labellamorenita.com Thank you for all of your continued support.

Ciao,

Pana

Gucci for Kids

The Gucci Children’s Collection will be available starting this November at Gucci boutiques, select speciality stores and http://www.gucci.com/

Many faces of Me

I would like to think I am the type of perosn that is "What I am suppose to be, when I am suppose it" (if ya don't know now ya know lol) . I can/tend to wear many hats. I am VERY sarcastic, so people that Don't know me can think I'm rude. Those that love me think I'm funny (hey I'm not making this up :op). I can be talkative at times , I find that it comes from always being alone and keepingto myself growing up :o/ (but fuck it either love me or leave me alone). My friend Gucci Shoes says that if she didn't know me she wouldn't like me. (in fact before she knew me she used to feel that way ah a stan lol) . LMFAO at the fact women can dislike someone whom they never have never met. Anyway the reason why people may feel that way is because I keep a straight face ---> :oI ....even when I am happy " I am not mad I'm just drawn that way" lol (just like my papi). I tend to only smile with people I know or deal with. I am selfless person, I do too much and almost always NEVER receive half of what I put out. I am so blessed because I think I turned out pretty good giving that I have raised myself for the most part. I can be a bitch when I feel disrespected.

I haven't spoken to you guys in a bit so I wanted you to know more about me the person, you always get my opinion and views about my blog topics but never anything too personal. I want you to know what I think and feel, I want you tell me about what you think and feel. Ok so in the past 7 months I have moved, re-evaluated relationships causing some people to be removed from my life, I do not consider this a bad thing it is just that sometimes you reach another level and some people cannot make that journey with you. If you do not have the same morals and principles then what do we have ? Seriously talking about shopping and men can only get you but so far :o/ . I need and crave substance. the older we get our priorities changes we focus more on family or building a family. I'm a hopeless romantic realistic but I love the word LOVE it is a great and POWERFUL thing. I hope you have enjoyed your experience getting inside my head by reading my blogs. I have decided to step it up a notch. I will continue to write about relationship (friends,family,intimate) but also I would like to discuss other topics concerning some of my readers so there will be more sex , and I will like to incorporate art , fashion, and most importantly parenting because more and more readers are becoming parents or they already are.

With that being said I am a sensitive bitch (yes in both respects) that is Loyal , Honest, and Down to earth !

Ciao Kisses,

Pana

Next Blog Topic - Bonk for free much lol

Are You That Somebody ?

They say that it is every little girls dream to find Prince Charming , get married and have babies, house, etc..... now for some this might not be true, you are not looking to get married, however for those of us that do this blog is for you.

What our parents fail to tell us is that the older you get the harder it seems to sustain a relationship. Somewhere down the line the base principle has been misplaced. Let me go deeper and thoroughly explain.

When we date in high school it's not really dating who back then could really go on dates ? ( I'm not talking about the fast ass girls that didn't have curfews you mama didn't care about you lol ) Seriously where were you going who was paying because I know that ninja was broke lol. Moving along you got "hooked up" then if he/she was cute then you was with it end of story nothing else matter that is what you based your relationship on. Now in college you determine your boyfriend/girlfriend on looks , then if you had things in common etc "you start to get a little more deep" Now as you are proceeding to exist college preparing yourself to go out in the "real world" ( as if you're living in fucking make believe land like real shit don't happen to you ) you start to plan for the future think about what you would like out a team mate plus you gather everything learned from the past failed relationships and see exactly what you do and don't like.

Let's fast forward to late 20's - 30's now you are looking to settle down (in most cases) you are ready thinking about marriage , babies, what can you/ your partner bring to the table, morals, and principles . All of this becomes imperative because without this criteria being met your relationship doesn't stand a chance. It's like being with a person who doesn't want to get married and you do , you're just fucking yourself because the do not posses the proper "core values" in order to be with you. this will only work if your priorities are in order. If you do not know what you want how would you know what your are looking for? Better yet you might be settling I thinking people should a minimum of 5 qualities that a person should posses.

I'm no expert but I believe that if more people followed a certain criteria then they would find people that are more compatibility with. Be patient do not settle or hope they will change , #weoffthat keep it moving ... You might be blocking your blessing everything I write about are my personal views either from my experiences or the experiences that other share with me. I was blocking mine for a long time putting others needs before my own. Now I can say with no regret that it is great to surround yourself with peoples that cares about your NEEDS just as much as their own. I want someone that will sweep me off my feet we all deserve that. At least I don't have to look (whew) . Try it I know you will thank me.

P.S. I want to go back to being hooked up because sometimes it works out for the best :op

What are your thoughts ?

Ciao,

Pana

Learn To Pick Your Battles

Do you want to be right......and alone? It's not about being right or wrong all the time. Sometimes you have to let things slide (not important things). Arguing over every little thing is childish (only you know what is important to you). If you know you have to tell him to take out the trash, just remind him. If it bothers you to put the cap back on the toothbrush WOOSAH the just do it. If he is late just suck it up. Unless he is ALWAYS late then you have to reasses what is worth arguing about and take one for the team (don't date late ass mofo's lol). ***Side Note - There is a big difference between keeping quiet and playing the ass*** (which of course men will pick door #2 all day). I'm not saying make significant amount of changes to the point where you lesson or lose your morals and principles. In the case I say make bounce (face it who wants to play by themselves) it wasn't fun as a child (with imagination) I am not a child !! ( I'm a grown ass woman dog in my Cedric the Entertainer voice). Sometimes women can be stubborn, and argue over petty stuff. It happens to the best of us, because the love is so deep emotions take over. I was never like that, but it's always that ONE that brings out your EVIL twin (in my Dr. Evil voice). We are QUEENS and must lead the way for our KINGS.....(more on that later).

Here is a Tip : Consider softening your approach.Reconsidering a criticism or hard-line stance n a matter could improve your relationship or love-life. I'm finally back to my old self (laughing to myself). My swagger is in rare form. I can do some damage (ego) . I have a bright future and apart of growing is being able to control your thoughts,emotions,and appetites. Keep Doing you, don't wait around for your kings approval (he should know what he has, as you should know what you have as well). In this life I take nothing for granted. I am blessed. It could be worse. Let's not get wrapped up in titles, just have fun and live. We only have one life to live (like the soap) you get one shot let's make it count !!! If you have someone special enjoy the time you spend. Soak up all the momentous occasions because in the end that is all you will have left. I woke up and had an epiphany. If you chose to follow what I have written I believe that in an ironic twist, it could be your respect, compassion to defer and pick your battles that breaks him or melts his heart, and get him to make an exception to the rule.