Are You That Somebody ?

They say that it is every little girls dream to find Prince Charming , get married and have babies, house, etc..... now for some this might not be true, you are not looking to get married, however for those of us that do this blog is for you.

What our parents fail to tell us is that the older you get the harder it seems to sustain a relationship. Somewhere down the line the base principle has been misplaced. Let me go deeper and thoroughly explain.

When we date in high school it's not really dating who back then could really go on dates ? ( I'm not talking about the fast ass girls that didn't have curfews you mama didn't care about you lol ) Seriously where were you going who was paying because I know that ninja was broke lol. Moving along you got "hooked up" then if he/she was cute then you was with it end of story nothing else matter that is what you based your relationship on. Now in college you determine your boyfriend/girlfriend on looks , then if you had things in common etc "you start to get a little more deep" Now as you are proceeding to exist college preparing yourself to go out in the "real world" ( as if you're living in fucking make believe land like real shit don't happen to you ) you start to plan for the future think about what you would like out a team mate plus you gather everything learned from the past failed relationships and see exactly what you do and don't like.

Let's fast forward to late 20's - 30's now you are looking to settle down (in most cases) you are ready thinking about marriage , babies, what can you/ your partner bring to the table, morals, and principles . All of this becomes imperative because without this criteria being met your relationship doesn't stand a chance. It's like being with a person who doesn't want to get married and you do , you're just fucking yourself because the do not posses the proper "core values" in order to be with you. this will only work if your priorities are in order. If you do not know what you want how would you know what your are looking for? Better yet you might be settling I thinking people should a minimum of 5 qualities that a person should posses.

I'm no expert but I believe that if more people followed a certain criteria then they would find people that are more compatibility with. Be patient do not settle or hope they will change , #weoffthat keep it moving ... You might be blocking your blessing everything I write about are my personal views either from my experiences or the experiences that other share with me. I was blocking mine for a long time putting others needs before my own. Now I can say with no regret that it is great to surround yourself with peoples that cares about your NEEDS just as much as their own. I want someone that will sweep me off my feet we all deserve that. At least I don't have to look (whew) . Try it I know you will thank me.

P.S. I want to go back to being hooked up because sometimes it works out for the best :op

What are your thoughts ?

Ciao,

Pana

Learn To Pick Your Battles

Do you want to be right......and alone? It's not about being right or wrong all the time. Sometimes you have to let things slide (not important things). Arguing over every little thing is childish (only you know what is important to you). If you know you have to tell him to take out the trash, just remind him. If it bothers you to put the cap back on the toothbrush WOOSAH the just do it. If he is late just suck it up. Unless he is ALWAYS late then you have to reasses what is worth arguing about and take one for the team (don't date late ass mofo's lol). ***Side Note - There is a big difference between keeping quiet and playing the ass*** (which of course men will pick door #2 all day). I'm not saying make significant amount of changes to the point where you lesson or lose your morals and principles. In the case I say make bounce (face it who wants to play by themselves) it wasn't fun as a child (with imagination) I am not a child !! ( I'm a grown ass woman dog in my Cedric the Entertainer voice). Sometimes women can be stubborn, and argue over petty stuff. It happens to the best of us, because the love is so deep emotions take over. I was never like that, but it's always that ONE that brings out your EVIL twin (in my Dr. Evil voice). We are QUEENS and must lead the way for our KINGS.....(more on that later).

Here is a Tip : Consider softening your approach.Reconsidering a criticism or hard-line stance n a matter could improve your relationship or love-life. I'm finally back to my old self (laughing to myself). My swagger is in rare form. I can do some damage (ego) . I have a bright future and apart of growing is being able to control your thoughts,emotions,and appetites. Keep Doing you, don't wait around for your kings approval (he should know what he has, as you should know what you have as well). In this life I take nothing for granted. I am blessed. It could be worse. Let's not get wrapped up in titles, just have fun and live. We only have one life to live (like the soap) you get one shot let's make it count !!! If you have someone special enjoy the time you spend. Soak up all the momentous occasions because in the end that is all you will have left. I woke up and had an epiphany. If you chose to follow what I have written I believe that in an ironic twist, it could be your respect, compassion to defer and pick your battles that breaks him or melts his heart, and get him to make an exception to the rule.

What's your Fantasy ???

Someone said to me the other day (about and unrelated topic) Am I trying to live out a fantasy??? (rude rass lol). The answer is NO (peedy pablo) if you really want to know ( which you can only if you are trying to make it happen :oT ) I will more than happy to express my fantasies with you. So there is the first fantasy. Pink and Black Sand what you know about that ?!!!

Babe

Make it happen !!!

Like Luda said is his debut single ....What's your fan-ta-ta-sy ?

Jus Chill

So I was talking to a friend of mine and we were talking about men and women and how some times we tend to take things too serious, and stop going with the flow. I must admit I'm guilty of doing just that. I had some running around to do this weekend I put some time aside to really thinking about what moves I need to make. I also hung out with a friend had a good time. I was talking to them about moving ,career plans etc......at first I was hesitant at the thought of moving but I thought about it I have no children it's about time I get out and explore. I'm beginning to make necessary changes. Sometimes life throws us a curve ball and we have to role with the punches, adjust accordingly, calculate your next move be 2 steps ahead.Right now I'm thinking of a master plan, getting my mind right (while sitting on the couch w/ my sexy panties on lmfao). I move to reach the next level in my life plan. Even though I am still in my 20's. All of this self -realization while wondering can I "Jus Chill" ? I working on certain traits and I haven't noticed that when I made them was a change for the better, god forbid nothing for the worse. Anything worth having is worth fighting for. I'm ready to move past the mundane and grind out. I think I can get back to the certain moral, principles,core values. Everyday encounters (in most cases) detour you from full filling your destiny.

I feel like a butterfly emerging from its chrysalis, I have taken some pretty tough circumstances and used them to grow. Now I am developing into something lovely and fantastic beyond my wildest imaginings. I also feel sexy, vibrant, mature, flirtatious, sensual,provocative...well you get the idea lmao. During times like these, it's good to remember how grateful you are -- not only for the easy things in your life, but for the tough circumstances as well. They've shaped you into someone amazing. Take a moment to honor yourself. My friend Tracey said to me yesterday you can either live life or LIVE life (so true mama). Even with all this self realization I am still confused (yes I can keep it 100) about certain aspects involving relationships (please note that when I speak of relationships it should always be considered general ex, family,friends, intimate unless otherwise noted) Can you just chill without losing yourself, being true to your core values, moral, and principles even though certain ideologies change ? Can you continue being the person you were before the relationship and still be considerate to someone else's feeling ?? Shit too much to think about how can you chill with all that shit on your mind ? I think most of people change when we are in relationships. I would like to think I do not I naturally love to cater and spoil my friends or partner. On the other hand there is nothing wrong with letting your inner child run free in moderation (something I should practice more often). Taking a step back to properly evaluate people in your life you to get to the core of what you want and need out your relationships. Some people fall in love with the idea of being in love. So when in the Jus chill phase I think you shouldn't rush things do not make a commitment if you are not ready for one, If you have to cut ninjaz and bitches off do that before making a commitment to someone else save yourself the headache. Please remember Karma is a bitch and will eat you alive do unto others .......

I have a list of things that I would like to do before I have children and some just before I leave this earth I have already started to implement them. So stay tuned I'm sure things are about to get VERY interesting....

Adios,

Pana

Xmas Wish List .....

Hey Guys and Gals I know it has been a minute but I promise that I have some very interesting topics for you coming soon. Xmas is vastly approaching and I know everyone is making their lists and checking it twice to make sure they get what they truly desire. With that being said I've been a very good girl this year ( maybe even too good) and i want everything on my list no stone left unturned thanks :oT .

1. I would like these CL shoes from @Cxxvii 's blog
2. I would this black LV bag
3. Grey Gucci Bag
4. 1 carat Diamond studs minimum SI 1 and G-H color Screw Backs
5. A pair Via Spiga Riding Boots in Chocolate size 7
6. A grey wool coat
7. (3) watch bands for my watch
8. ceramic black watch w/diamond (although this gift could cross over into Valentines day wink )

Hey guys what are your xmas wishes ? I hope you all get what you want and deserve.

Ciao,

Pana

My Horoscope

The World card suggests that you may have come a long way, baby, in reaching your romantic goals or letting go of the past. Now you could receive further gifts in your love life. Perhaps some family planning or a change in your relationship that can expand your horizons is in the works. Get ready for creative plans for the future. This may be the real deal. You could finally feel complete -- but it's only the beginning.

Ok Ok this is exactly how I am feeling minus the family planning hahahahaha I am Blessed !!!

**** New blogs will be posted this week I apologize I moved and had numerous things to take care of at once***

Ciao ,

Pana

Are You Loyal ?

Loy*al*ty –noun, plural -ties. 1. the state or quality of being loyal; faithfulness to commitments or obligations. 2. faithful adherence to a sovereign, government, leader, cause, etc. 3. an example or instance of faithfulness, adherence, or the like: a man with fierce loyalties. The first thing that comes to my mind when I hear loyalty is consistency, allegiance, faithfulness, fealty, affection, and devotion. These are very important traits to have. This is apart of my genetic makeup. As I am maturing and observing my daily surroundings I noticed that loyalty hardly exists from the street dudes to mobsters, from businessmen to the campaign trail loyalty is a rare commodity. In my travels I hear men and woman (mostly men) speak about how they want someone loyal especially in the relationship aspect of their lives. Then my question in my head is are you in turn loyal ? Do you know the true definition not what you have tailored to fit your requirements but the standard across the board meaning. For instance how can you expect some one you treat like shit do be loyal? How can you be upset if they abandon you or play for the next team? Sometimes you have to look at peoples mind set because after all everything is about perception.... let's dig deep I'll give you a scenario : Let's say you are in an 8 yr relationship or 2 year relationship (doesn't matter) . You have a couple that has a lot in common, same morals and principles, get along well (for the most part). On the outside it seems like the are a pretty descent almost perfect (perfect ...that's another blog in it's entirety) couple. But here are the facts. He spends almost zero time at home, cheats and with cheating comes lies, Plus he is commita-phobe, and isn't taking care of home in the tradition sense (that means not spending time or catering to the needs of the relationship he is in). There are some money issues but nothing too dramatic. Now after 8 yrs of being a solider, shorty decides to go AWOL. This is the interesting part not only did all this time he expect loyalty, In her opinion he really didn't show any. Moving right along ........... So let's elaborate: Only expect what you give. I know somethings are easier said than done but people (and in this cases the male) should be realistic. If you are not taking care of home you are lucky she only went AWOL and wasn't disloyal. If you have time to cheat, then you have time to make your relationship work period (if you don't want to make time don't be in one WTF) because if you make a commitment it's like a contract that's your word if you don't want to honor it pay the fucking penalty charge and bounce !! Choosing one over the other is being disloyal. Whether it is a friend, partner, family co-worker whatever person you decided to let into your life that is a trait you should look for and demand. Just because they don't want to deal with your shit anymore doesn't mean they aren't loyal, that just means they no longer want to deal with your shit !!!!! Why should you be loyal to someone who betrayed your trust ? Not only that why continue to be loyal to someone who doesn't try to earn it back or doesn't show any signs of change. When it comes to friendships : Your friends should be the first to top the list especially your BF because she is your ultimate confidant. Even though I mostly talk about relationships here (man/woman) everything I say can be applied across the board (meaning that it apply in all situations friend,family,intimate). Now my personal opinion loyalty is who been there with you through thick and thin, your ride or die even when sometimes you didn't deserve for them to be by your side, defends you when you are wrong ( fuck it I go hard for my ninjaz lol). Even if a better job offer came up they would still help you build from the ground up because they believe in your vision. Stick with you, even if you were broke because they know that that spell will not last forever. Give you their last and MOST importantly will never chose another!! (this type of loyalty rarely exists these days). Please be aware for the impostor that front like they have your best interest at heart while they have ulterior motives, and just want to "use somebody". This happens to the best of us please do not think it can't happen to you, because in the end you will get caught "slippin" and then find out who your real "peoplez" are. And might lose some loyal peoples in the process (on to the next one) These are just some attributes that I think defines loyalty How many people you know that can honestly say that your loyalty is unquestionable ??? ReSpEcT, Pana